Something Women Should Know: “No You Can’t Change Him”

Coming from another generation, I  am happy to share some of my past experiences to help avoid some of the pitfalls that could await you. Let’s pretend that you meet someone you think is the right guy for you and you love everything about him except you know he has a reputation as a player. OK, I know you are certain you can change him. Does the name Arnold Schwarzenegger, “The Sperminator” mean anything to you? Yes we all heard rumors for years about groping but Maria labelled it as gossip. How about John Edwards or Dominique Strauss-Kahn? Are you getting the message? OK, I’ll pick another example. You know he has had a romantic relationship with a male but he swears he was just experimenting or drunk and you think he could be a loving loyal husband. Forget it. Most of us experiment when we are in our early adolescence when the line is drawn in the sand. If you are a female &  attracted to boys, you will be attracted to men as you age. I knew someone who married a guy that we all knew was gay but she thought she could change him when she married him. You guessed it; they got divorced. Yes, there are some things you can live with like leaving the toliet seat up, a bad haircut  or leaving the wet towel on the bathroom floor after a shower but, don’t think you will change him unless he wants to. You know I always believe that “perfect is perfectly boring” and, by the way, you have some annoying habits too. Just accept the whole package but remember a leopard doesn’t change it’s spots. Eventually, I even learned to appreciate my husband’s flaws and found them cute on most days or maybe I just learned to ignore them. We call that happiness.